Kamara Taylor: Black Women & The Fight Against Cancer

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By: Kamara Taylor

With crime being ever so rampant in minority communities, we tend to overlook the biggest threat and killer that continues to destroy homes and the family dynamic.  This terrible menace is CANCER.

As Angelina Jolie has become the face of the BRCA 1 gene by removing both breasts to prevent the likelihood of cancer occurring, most African American women are the largest carriers of the triple negative gene.  This form of cancer is not associated directly with the hormonal characteristics of developing cancer, but genetics.

My mother, Minnie D. Taylor, was diagnosed with stage four triple negative stage breast cancer on March 27, 2013 at the age of 50 and was dead by July 8, 2013.  Being made aware of this deadly disease goes beyond the monthly self-exams that women are informed to do and the knowledge required goes beyond the text book knowledge from the oncologist.

Sometimes medicine remains as much as a big box business as Wal-Mart or Costco and the merchandise is at the expensive of our loved ones lives.  Just as Henrietta Lacks and her HeLa cells have been used to pioneer medicine, many of our loved ones are medical guinea pigs for eager medical students, burnt out residents and overzealous attendees.

Cancer is not a new disease; however its rampant spread in the African American community has and should raise eyebrows.  We also need more awareness on how we are affected firsthand as cancer’s ugly head continues to sphere its way into our communities and is just as rampant as crime.

The pharmaceutical companies and the oncology departments are cancerous, as well.  They continue to capitalize off a disease that we lack knowledge about and refuse to educate ourselves on.  Please let’s make ourselves aware so that we can prevent our families from inexplicably losing another Minnie D. Taylor ever so soon.

 

Kamara Taylor

Kamara A. Taylor

Masters of Art Political Science

Phd candidate Cognitive and Instructional Psychology

 

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Madam Prezident: Why You Should Never Be Afraid To Ask Your Man For Money

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By: Madam Prezident

I was talking to a friend, and she began to tell me about her financial instability. I listened to her thoroughly, and she went on & on. Now let me tell you, I don’t have any friends with a “Trust Fund” that I know of. I understand the financial struggle of black people, or all of America.

As she explained her financial burdens, I asked her, “Did you ask your man for any money”? She said, “No”. Then she said, “I don’t feel comfortable asking him for any money”.

The truth of the matter is, a man should not feel comfortable watching you struggle.

I’m not talking about making sure you in Gucci, and gold. I’m talking about lights, gas, and rent; the required necessities to live.

A real man that loves his woman does not want her to ask her friends for money, nor does he want to see her struggle. A real man knows how to provide, but ladies you cannot be afraid to ask your man for things that you need. I’m very sure when he is horny he has NO PROBLEM letting you know.

My grandma says, “Even a fool know what to do with that a$$”. If you with a man, that can’t help you financially in your time of need, but he can put rims on his car, stay in the latest fashion, and travel.–then it’s time for you to leave. 

Now you work and go to school, but he can’t help you the “few” times you need help. I’m sorry to inform you “you don’t have a man.”

Make sure you understand, I’m not approving gold digging, however if you can’t ask someone for something who you share your thoughts, secrets, and body; then you are obviously with the wrong man.

I can assure you the right man; you won’t  have to ask for anything.

He knows when your times are hard. He will call you and say, “Here is the hair money, nail money, book money, here is a grand on tuition”.

Remember these words; “Love and care are two different things”. You don’t want to be in love with a person who doesn’t CARE about you and your well being.

And like your mother use to say “caring is sharing”!!! (Wink)

 

Madam Prezident

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Chef Mike Valli: Atlanta’s Youngest & Flyest Celebrity Chef

 

(L) Chef Mike Valli (R) Madam Prezident

(L) Chef Mike Valli (R) Madam Prezident

 

By: Madam Prezident

Most young men Chef Mike Valli’s age are finishing college, looking for a job that will lead to a long time career. I guess it’s safe to say that Chef Mike Valli isn’t most men. While his peers are trying to figure out life, he’s already developed a passion for “flyness” and food.  Amongst young people, One of the hardest things to do is figure out what “to be” in life.

 

This young, talented chef has not only figured out what his “calling” is he’s turned it into a profitable business.  Your favorite singer, rapper, or reality star has had a taste of Chef Mike Valli’s creativity. Chef Mike Valli’s clientele consists of a list of heavy hitters such as, Waka Flocka, Mike Will, Future, K. Michelle, Yandy Smith, and many more.

 

Although Chef Valli has a celebrity clientele the dream didn’t start that way.  Chef Valli dropped out of culinary school, found himself unemployed and looking for work. He was headed to Publix for a promising interview; he received a phone call from a man who needed a personal chef to assist him in losing weight.  At that moment, not only did Chef Valli change the direction of his car—he changed the direction of his life.

 

Jerk Chicken and Waffles with Raspberry glaze

Jerk Chicken and Waffles with Raspberry glaze

Chef Valli is the CEO of his own catering company, and creator of state-of-the-art chef coats matching his beautifully presented and tasting food. Chef Mike Valli has a clear vision of his catering company.  Once he puts an idea in his mind, it soon becomes a reality.  Speaking of reality, don’t be surprised if you see Chef Mike Valli take-over your high-definition televisions with his style and flavorsome food.

Chef Valley didn’t want to keep his success a secret, when I asked him about advice for his young peers that are sitting on a gift, he simply replied “Take life’s ingredients and make something good out of it.”

Chef Valli’s catering service is located in the Atlanta area, and if you wish to look as fly as him in a chef coat, you can place your order via email at chefmikevalli@gmail.com.

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4 Things Young Black Women Should Remember When Dating

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By: Madam Prezident 

70% of African American women are unmarried. Although that’s a large amount of unmarried black folk—it’s a harsh reality. Being an African American woman currently on the dating scene, I noticed a few mistakes that we as women make when meeting someone new. These mistakes are the top 4 things that keep us single.

1)    Clingy

Stop being clingy—if you are the clingy type, then stop. It’s not a bad thing to desire the presence of someone you like, but when you are forcing your connection oppose to allowing it to take it’s natural course, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. I am a strong believer that we all make time for the people and things that are important to us. If you think you need to be clingy to keep his interest, then it’s apparent he’s not that interested in you.

 

2)    Expectations

Have clear expectations when you meet someone new. If you are looking to date long-term, short-term or you’re just “kickin’ it“—take the time to let the prospective dater know. One of our biggest mistakes as women is our inability to be “straight up“.  When a man is solely interested in you sexually, he doesn’t hesitate to tell you. Having clear expectations will save you a lot of time, and from long pointless dates.

 

3)    Don’t Date Potential

For some reason, black women like to date men who have the potential of being a good, employed, or strong man. This kind of behavior needs to stop. You don’t walk on a car lot to purchase a dependable car, and allow the dealer to show you a non-operable car—telling you it has the potential to run.  If you work fulltime and you want your man to work full time then date a man who has a job.  If you’re a Christian woman who wants a church going man, then don’t meet the guy at the club and pray he desires to attend church—date the brother at the church. We have to date a man’s reality not his potential.

 

4)    Do Not Have Sex on the 1st Date

If you’re not looking for a relationship that is solely sexual, then don‘t start the relationship off with sex.  I’m sure it’s been a while since you’ve had “some“, and you’re probably in orgasmic hiatus, but don’t be desperate and careless by being sexually active with a man that you barely know. Many women like to use the philosophy of being a “grown woman” who can handle sexual intercourse without any attachment as their justification for sleeping with men expeditiously. In actually it’s a lie. I do not believe it is humanly possible for a woman to have anything on the inside of her and not be attached. God did not create us that way. If you want something more than sex, then don’t make sex the foundation of your relationship. In other words, make him wait.

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