4 Things Young Black Women Should Remember When Dating

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By: Madam Prezident 

70% of African American women are unmarried. Although that’s a large amount of unmarried black folk—it’s a harsh reality. Being an African American woman currently on the dating scene, I noticed a few mistakes that we as women make when meeting someone new. These mistakes are the top 4 things that keep us single.

1)    Clingy

Stop being clingy—if you are the clingy type, then stop. It’s not a bad thing to desire the presence of someone you like, but when you are forcing your connection oppose to allowing it to take it’s natural course, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. I am a strong believer that we all make time for the people and things that are important to us. If you think you need to be clingy to keep his interest, then it’s apparent he’s not that interested in you.

 

2)    Expectations

Have clear expectations when you meet someone new. If you are looking to date long-term, short-term or you’re just “kickin’ it“—take the time to let the prospective dater know. One of our biggest mistakes as women is our inability to be “straight up“.  When a man is solely interested in you sexually, he doesn’t hesitate to tell you. Having clear expectations will save you a lot of time, and from long pointless dates.

 

3)    Don’t Date Potential

For some reason, black women like to date men who have the potential of being a good, employed, or strong man. This kind of behavior needs to stop. You don’t walk on a car lot to purchase a dependable car, and allow the dealer to show you a non-operable car—telling you it has the potential to run.  If you work fulltime and you want your man to work full time then date a man who has a job.  If you’re a Christian woman who wants a church going man, then don’t meet the guy at the club and pray he desires to attend church—date the brother at the church. We have to date a man’s reality not his potential.

 

4)    Do Not Have Sex on the 1st Date

If you’re not looking for a relationship that is solely sexual, then don‘t start the relationship off with sex.  I’m sure it’s been a while since you’ve had “some“, and you’re probably in orgasmic hiatus, but don’t be desperate and careless by being sexually active with a man that you barely know. Many women like to use the philosophy of being a “grown woman” who can handle sexual intercourse without any attachment as their justification for sleeping with men expeditiously. In actually it’s a lie. I do not believe it is humanly possible for a woman to have anything on the inside of her and not be attached. God did not create us that way. If you want something more than sex, then don’t make sex the foundation of your relationship. In other words, make him wait.

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Perfume Store Owner In New York Is Being Sued For Being A Racist

What do you call it when your boss won’t let you serve white people because your “skin is too dark?” Sounds like a lawsuit to us!

A pair of former “perfumistas” at the high-end Bond No. 9 perfume shop claim in a federal lawsuit that owner Laurice Rahme is a racist who called African-Americans “thieves” — and used a code phrase to alert security when dark-skinned customers came into the store.

“We need the light bulbs changed,” was the signal for an unwelcome customer, according to the lawsuit.

Veronica Robledo and Karin Widmann are seeking $3 million in damages in the suit that accuses Rahme of violating their civil rights and firing them for objecting to her “pattern of racism against customers and employees.”

Robledo of the Bronx, who worked for Rahme for nine years, also claims her boss wouldn’t let her serve white customers because “my skin is dark.”

“I was very offended,” a tearful Robledo, 41, told the Daily News. “The last eight months were torture. I was afraid to speak to a black customer. ”

Robledo, who is Puerto Rican, said she even had to keep quiet about her black Jamaican boyfriend and “tell him to hide when he came to pick me up so (Rahme) wouldn’t see him.”

The last straw, Robledo said, was when Rahme accused her in February of knowing a black customer who was caught shoplifting in another store.

Robledo said when she and Widmann finally complained about the racism in February, Rahme fired them and accused them of stealing $25,000 worth of stock. They deny the accusation.

Rahme insisted she’s no racist and blamed the suit on “disgruntled employees” who got caught with their hands in the till. She said most of her workers are from minority groups, and added that she welcomes black customers. “We love them,” she insisted.

Rahme admitted they do use the “light bulbs” code “to protect the girls” when somebody suspicious enters the stores. But she insisted it’s not aimed specifically at black customers, although she did mention that each time her stores were robbed “they were all African-American robbers.”

Rahme, who said her ethnicity is French and Lebanese and claims to have once had a black boyfriend, also said the women’s discrimination complaint with the state Division on Human Rights was kayoed.

Walker Harman, an attorney for Robledo and Widmann, said the complaint “was dismissed at our request” for administrative reasons barring pending complaint and a lawsuit at the same time.”

Do you think these former employees deserve that kind of money? Or are they just angry over being let go after 9 years of working there? Do you think you could work somewhere racist for 9 years?

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9 Black Ballers Reveal Their Secrets On “Amateur Millionaires Club”

 These nine folks went from ashy to classy damn near overnight and now Centric is showing how they did it and continue to maintain it on their ‘Amateur Millionaires Club’ show:

Debt free in six months? Hmmm… We might have to tune in for this one.

Here’s some more info on the show:

From the every man to self-made man… CENTRIC presents the THE AMATEUR MILLIONAIRES CLUB, a fresh and exciting new docu-series that provides a behind-the-scenes look at the lives of 9 newly minted African American millionaires as they showcase their rise to wealth and the challenges that come along with their new found stature in society. Airing Saturdays at 11/10C*, viewers will get a front row seat to witness the drama of becoming rich almost overnight, juggling family, faith and business while living the lifestyle they never dreamed possible.

THE AMATEUR MILLIONAIRES CLUB closely follows the club members’ successes and failures as they overcome the stigma and stereotypical images associated with their chosen business path. This group of determined leaders obtained their millions with the Multi-Level marketing business model, which has leveled the playing field by affording the average person an opportunity to become a millionaire in a short period of time.

The show airs Saturdays at 11pm/10pm on Centric

Will you be watching?

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