4 Things Young Black Women Should Remember When Dating

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By: Madam Prezident 

70% of African American women are unmarried. Although that’s a large amount of unmarried black folk—it’s a harsh reality. Being an African American woman currently on the dating scene, I noticed a few mistakes that we as women make when meeting someone new. These mistakes are the top 4 things that keep us single.

1)    Clingy

Stop being clingy—if you are the clingy type, then stop. It’s not a bad thing to desire the presence of someone you like, but when you are forcing your connection oppose to allowing it to take it’s natural course, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. I am a strong believer that we all make time for the people and things that are important to us. If you think you need to be clingy to keep his interest, then it’s apparent he’s not that interested in you.

 

2)    Expectations

Have clear expectations when you meet someone new. If you are looking to date long-term, short-term or you’re just “kickin’ it“—take the time to let the prospective dater know. One of our biggest mistakes as women is our inability to be “straight up“.  When a man is solely interested in you sexually, he doesn’t hesitate to tell you. Having clear expectations will save you a lot of time, and from long pointless dates.

 

3)    Don’t Date Potential

For some reason, black women like to date men who have the potential of being a good, employed, or strong man. This kind of behavior needs to stop. You don’t walk on a car lot to purchase a dependable car, and allow the dealer to show you a non-operable car—telling you it has the potential to run.  If you work fulltime and you want your man to work full time then date a man who has a job.  If you’re a Christian woman who wants a church going man, then don’t meet the guy at the club and pray he desires to attend church—date the brother at the church. We have to date a man’s reality not his potential.

 

4)    Do Not Have Sex on the 1st Date

If you’re not looking for a relationship that is solely sexual, then don‘t start the relationship off with sex.  I’m sure it’s been a while since you’ve had “some“, and you’re probably in orgasmic hiatus, but don’t be desperate and careless by being sexually active with a man that you barely know. Many women like to use the philosophy of being a “grown woman” who can handle sexual intercourse without any attachment as their justification for sleeping with men expeditiously. In actually it’s a lie. I do not believe it is humanly possible for a woman to have anything on the inside of her and not be attached. God did not create us that way. If you want something more than sex, then don’t make sex the foundation of your relationship. In other words, make him wait.

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Third “Elmo” Sex Abuse Accuser Comes Forward Against Ex-Sesame Street Puppeteer Kevin Clash!

Hide Ya Kids!

Third Underage Sex Abuse Accuses Elmo Star Kevin Clash

Via TMZ reports:

Kevin Clash is being accused of a third sexual relationship with an underage boy — and the former voice of Elmo could be sued as early as Tuesday, according to a report.

The latest accuser claims he was 16 when he engaged in “sexual activity” with Clash back in 2000 — and alleges they met on a gay chat line.

It’s a very similar claim to the one made by accuser #2, Cecil Singleton. TMZ broke the story when Singleton filed suit last week — and a few hours later Clash resigned from “Sesame Street.”

The third accuser’s attorney, Jeff Herman, told the NY Daily News his client plans to file a lawsuit in Manhattan Federal Court as “John Doe” … because he doesn’t want to go public.

How can the authorities wade through the people wanting a paycheck via a lie so they’ll just tell the same story they hear in the news, and who may actually be telling the truth? If it’s all lies, what a mess has been made from it. If it’s true, how sad.

Maybe they should change the name of the show to Sandusky Street?

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Woman Suffers From Climaxing 100 Times A Day

Sounds pretty exciting, right? Well not according to this nurse who feels agony with sexual pleasure.

Kim Ramsey, 44, feels constantly aroused and the slightest movement can trigger a climax. Trains, driving and even housework start the reaction. But unlike women who yearn for the “Yes, yes!” experience, Kim just thinks “Oh no!” The “busting” leaves her in pain, exhausted and unable to have a normal relationship. She said: “Other women wonder how come — I wonder how to stop mine.”

Kim was diagnosed with incurable Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder. Doctors blame spinal cysts caused when she fell down stairs ten years ago. Kim, from Hitchin, Herts, but now living in Montclair, New Jersey, US, first had problems after sex with a new boyfriend in 2008. She said: “I had constant climaxes for four days. I thought I was going mad. It also happened with a new partner and I even tried sitting on frozen peas.”

PEOPLE might joke but this condition is no laughing matter for sufferers. They find it difficult to talk about the problem, fearing people will laugh or think they are a sex maniac.

 

Bizarre.

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World’s Heaviest Woman Loses 98 Pounds By Having Wild Sex Marathons

Let’s get physical

Pauline Potter became the world’s heaviest living woman last year, weighing in at a whopping 643 pounds. Now, Potter has her sights set on losing weight, and she’s turned to marathon sex sessions to help shed the pounds.

In an interview with the UK’s Closer magazine, Potter described how her reignited sex life with her ex-hubby Alex has helped her lose 98 pounds.

“I can’t move much in bed, but I burn 500 calories a session –- it’s great exercise just jiggling around,” Potter told Closer. Potter, who had been consuming 10,000 calories a day, hopes to reach her goal weight of 532 pounds with the help of Alex. The two have sex up to seven times each day.

She makes sure to have some fun, too.

“We love foreplay and massages and, as well as full sex, I pleasure Alex, too,” she told the magazine. “My bed is strengthened and, although I can’t buy sexy lingerie, I drape a nice sheet over me.”

When Alex got wind of the publicity surrounding Potter, he decided to visit her and the flame was quickly rekindled.

“Within the first day of being back together we had sex six times in 24 hours,” Alex told the Sun last November. “Even though one of Pauline’s legs weighs more than I do, we’re able to position her body to make sex enjoyable for both of us.”

Alex, who weighs just 140 pounds, does most of the work in the bedroom.

“It’s really dangerous for us to have sex because at any moment the bed could collapse and one or both of us could be seriously injured or even killed from the impact,” he told the Sun.

She might have the record for being the heaviest, but give him the trophy for being the horniest non-discriminating men ever! UGH!

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8 THINGS WOMEN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THEIR VA JAY JAY

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This is a good article! Picked it up from Madame Noire:

The first thing you should really know about the vagina is that you should get yourself a group of girlfriends with whom your comfortable enough comparing notes and experiences! But, if you don’t have that group yet or the below issues just haven’t come up, then read on.

"Woman holding a condom"

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You can still contract an STD even if you use a condom

It’s a huge let down but, it’s the reason why sleeping with completely random men may not be the best idea. At least if you run in the same circles, you may have gotten word if the guy had something!  If the skin of the vulva comes into contact with affected skin on the scrotum, you can still catch an STD.

 

"Nice pair of legs"

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Use it or lose it

This typically only applies to post-menopausal women but, an unused vagina can form fragile tissue and even shrink, making sex difficult and painful.

 

"Man kissing a woman's neck"

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Most women cannot reach orgasm from intercourse

There isn’t some club you just haven’t graduated into yet, or some form of intimacy you haven’t experienced if you haven’t reached orgasm through intercourse. Many women never do, but still have perfectly fulfilling sex lives.

 

"Woman seducing a man"

mensfitness.com

A simple tip to finding the G spot

First off, the G spot is in a different place for every woman so don’t get frustrated if you can’t find it right away. However, in general it is along the front wall of the vaginal canal. Some women are able to find it by using their finger in the “come hither” motion, and doing that up and down the wall until they hit the spot. Of course, a man may not always be able to find that. But it’s nice if you have the info to try to direct him!

 

"Women's douche product"

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Your vagina doesn’t have to smell like roses

Or be “douched.” Just because hundreds of products have been created to help you “clean up” your vagina, doesn’t mean that’s what men want. If you like to use those products—okay. But don’t use them out of insecurity. A vagina is meant to smell like a vagina.

 

"Woman getting a pap smear"

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Your pap can only detect one type of cancer

And that’s cervical. It doesn’t scan for cancer on your ovaries, uterus or your colon. So if you’re concerned about those, see the proper health care professional.

 

"K Y Jelly"

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Needing lubrication is normal

Plenty of women struggle to become naturally lubricated. Don’t feel like you’re the “kinky” one by standing in the K-Y aisle at the drug store. Comfortable and enjoyable sex is your birthright. So go get it.

 

"Woman covering her face"

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The thing no one wants to talk about…

The queef. This is the sound that mimics gas coming out of your vagina. If this happens to you, don’t think your guy is thinking, “What is wrong with this woman?” He’s surely experienced it before. The queef is simply what happens when air is pushed into the vagina during intercourse, and a switching of positions allows much of it to rush out. Just ignore it if it happens, and keep enjoying yourself.

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